Grief does not go away unless you dealt with it. There are five stages involved in grief:
- Denial: you can't believe what happened
- Anger: you are mad with people and God
- Bargaining: you come to terms with it
- Depression: feeling guilty and sad
- Acceptance back to daily routine.
The death of a loved one must be worked through, and it takes time to get adapted again to your daily life. You probably think you are fine, but you aren't. You are struggling emotionally, socially, and with religion . Experiencing a death can be overwhelming for anyone, no matter what your age and beliefs. It may be embarrassing to talking about feelings. Friends should be understanding and supportive of you. Don't let your emotions manifest you into a completely different person. You can ask your teachers, relatives, friends or anyone you trust for help. One out of every 20 children aged fifteen and younger will suffer from loss of one or both parent. Benefits of getting help are back to enjoying activities, not decrease in school performance, and being socially active.
Dr. O adds:
Thank you, Anonymous, for sharing such a painful experience with other teens. You are not alone with your grief, and sharing what you went through will help others out there who also lost a loved one. I thought it might be helpful if I pulled together some resources for teens with grief:
- Here are some tips here for grieving teens as well as for their friends who don’t know what to do. There are also specific local resources in California listed at the end.
- This information is from the National Institute for Trauma and Loss in Children – it talks about death, grief and what to expect and it was written specifically for teens.
- The goal of OK2TALK is to create a community for teens and young adults struggling with mental health problems and encourage them to talk about what they’re experiencing by sharing their personal stories of recovery, tragedy, struggle or hope. I love this resource which is run by NAMI.