In the midst of all the chaos of sorting out a new school year, everywhere you look people are trying to get things off on the right foot. Often that means they are trying to be perfect. Not good, or even awesome, but PERFECT. You know, wear the perfect thing to school where you must get the perfect grade and have the perfect mix of perfect classes where you learn with perfect classmates and perfect friends, get the perfect amount of exercise and sleep to have the perfect body and perfect skin, and if all that happens, you know that you will be perfectly happy.
REAL TALK REALITY CHECK….
So, remember this – I say this at least a few times a week to my own kids (and myself!)–
Strive for excellence – not for perfection.
Reason: You cannot attain perfection, and if that is what you strive for, you may give up, or develop unhealthy habits (skipping sleep, eating poorly, no exercise, too much exercise, restricting foods, using drugs and alcohol to manage stress and turn your brain off, etc, etc, etc).
And, the corollary:
Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.
Meaning: Sometimes if you accept only perfection you end up wasting a lot of time going after the unattainable so that you cannot pursue or do justice to other things that you must do or that are important to you.
So, onward. Have a good school year! It won’t be perfect, but that’s normal, that’s life and that’s OK!